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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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3 year old male. Just said he would only neuter if it was a Pom off procedure
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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05/19/18 01:33 AM
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My husband and I, adopted a breeding pair of gliders from a trustworthy glider owner and friend, she just didn’t have the time that was needed to dedicate to them with being in and out of the hospital for a family member and work.
Until the babies are ready to be separated from their parents. I’m planning to leave them alone and even after that. I think all of us concentrated on the issue of bonding and completely missed the fact you had a breeding pair of gliders. I did until I read the part in your last post about "babies" or joeys.
IMO, this could be why you are having more problems with bonding. First, they are in a new home, and second they are trying to protect their joeys.
You are going to have to step back and give them space until these joeys are at least weaned, and you are able to handle them. I have no doubt the biting is their way of telling you to keep your distance from the joeys.
Continue to talk to them through the cage as well as offering treats through the bars. This will probably be a very slow process but it will be rewarding in the end. after thinking about it, I came up with what karen posted. you have a protective mother that doesn't know you. you (and me) seem to lack the skills to bond with a pregnant female and unneutered male. you need to NOT bond with these gliders right now. You should get the male neutered and let the mom finish with her babies. before you get in their face.
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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05/19/18 02:02 AM
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3 year old male. Just said he would only neuter if it was a Pom off procedure as far as I know all our males are neutered pom off. if that means the jewels are missing, then that is how all ours were done.
John and Charlene Gizmo / link / Sophie / Riggs / scarface / gus
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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Pom off laser is what my veterinarian does. It is a very quick procedure and I have never had any problems afterwards.
Kimberley Feathers-Sweetie, Mister Peanut & Big Mack Fur-Guinan, Mr. Spock, T'Mir, Cho, Toothless, Maverick & Maharet T'Pol, Elizabeth & Curzon TY, TJ, Light Fury, Madison & T'Pring Forever in my heart, Gizmo, Tucker, Khayman and the rest of my babies over the
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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He just wanted to cut it off and let it heal on its own. Not a good vet in my opinion that’s why when he said he wouldn’t I was kinda happy he didn’t seem to know about gliders a whole lot
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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05/19/18 11:27 AM
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Be sure he doesn't shave the area. It will make healing easier. Gliders do not like to be shaved. He will lick it raw trying to 'fix' the funny feeling of no fur.
Dawn Be patient, and Trust your journey.... Grace Ruby Mom Dad Fiona, Dot and Stewie wish I could turn back time... Miss you
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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He just wanted to cut it off and let it heal on its own. That pretty much describes the standard procedure as I understand it.
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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Shaving the area isn’t good though. And isn’t Pom off not a good thing to do after a male have been breeding. Or have I been reading the blogs all wrong
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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Former breeding males can have a pom off neuter. The important thing with neutering with pom off it not to shave and not to laser or cut to close to the belly. I recommend that you discuss this with your veterinarian.
Kimberley Feathers-Sweetie, Mister Peanut & Big Mack Fur-Guinan, Mr. Spock, T'Mir, Cho, Toothless, Maverick & Maharet T'Pol, Elizabeth & Curzon TY, TJ, Light Fury, Madison & T'Pring Forever in my heart, Gizmo, Tucker, Khayman and the rest of my babies over the
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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I’ve decided to get rid off this breeding pair. And find it a home where they can just be breeding window pets. I am not usually one to just give up when it gets tough but this has caused me far too much stress and anxiety to the point in which I’ve miscarried.
This is definitely not what I signed on for. I thought we were doing a good thing by rescuing these guys but it seems as if we should have left them with their first owners.
Thank you all for your comments, concerns and knowledge.
These gliders need much more work than I can give them right now.
I may be a bad glider owner to some of you and I’m sorry you think that way but y’all don’t know how hard it has been to just take care of this pair specifically the female. She is the worst I’ve ever had.
My previous pair was never this bad.
Best, Tynk
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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It's never easy to take in rescues. My experience was with a 12wk oop Joey who was terrified of humans. I didn't mention her because she was so young. It took us 6 months to earn the smallest trust, and another 3 months to bond. She only tolerates us now and she is almost 4yrs old. There were many times I wanted to re-home her, but I knew she would never change, and going through the rehoming process would make her worse. Our solution to Dot's issues is to keep her mentally stimulated, and she has to stay on a strict feeding schedule. She has food aggression issues and we have to be present while the girls eat every night. Dot has separation issues too from Fiona. I understand how you feel, and this pair may never warm up to you. It takes a lot of time to teach and unlearn bad habits. Dot and I still work through who the alpha is. I'm the only one who wins. Sometimes it's a fight. Sometimes I think she tests me to see if I'll give up. I have no experience with a bonded mated pair. I can only imagine what it's like to work with two. At least they have each other for now to get through being rehomed again. I wouldn't even attempt what you have tried. Kudos to you. This is what makes each glider unique. Some are social to humans right away. Others need work, and you have to earn a lot of their trust. Others just prefer to be left alone. Fiona bonded within 2 weeks. She was a single at the time. Fiona loves to have 1on 1 time. Dot took 9months and still prefers her cage to hanging out with us. I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself please. I hope you can have gliders in your future and we will see you here again soon!
Dawn Be patient, and Trust your journey.... Grace Ruby Mom Dad Fiona, Dot and Stewie wish I could turn back time... Miss you
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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05/24/18 10:49 AM
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Thank you. Listening to you and a few others. I’ve changed my mind. I won’t be rehoming these guys again. I’m just not going to try to bond or touch or anything that requires human contact. Obviously they were never bonded but to each other. This really sucks but I’m just going to feed and water them I’ll leave the cage door open at night while we are home during their play time in case they want to come out and explore. Rehoming then again would just make it absolutely incredibly hard to do anything with them. As for fixing the male it’s not what I want to do but I’ll leave that alone for now and think about that again at a later time. Will someone help me and coach me in what to do and how to handle this pair? I really need guidance and knowledge.
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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05/24/18 11:50 AM
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Thank you. Listening to you and a few others. I’ve changed my mind. I am glad you have changed your mind, however, I do think you will need to reconsider neutering the male.I won’t be rehoming these guys again. I’m just not going to try to bond or touch or anything that requires human contact. Obviously they were never bonded but to each other. This really sucks but I’m just going to feed and water them I’ll leave the cage door open at night while we are home during their play time in case they want to come out and explore. This is basically the advice that was given within this thread. Leave them alone until the joeys are separated from the parents and then give mom some time to settle down before trying the bonding process again. The only additional piece of advice was to get the male neutered so there would be no more joeys to trigger mom's vary protective behavior.
Letting unbonded gliders possibly roam free is not always a good idea. How do you propose to get them back into their cage? Chasing them down will only set back any tiny little bit of progress you might have made. You will be shocked at how good they are at finding places to hide you never thought about or even thought they could get into. You will also need to make sure you house is glider safe so they cannot get lost within walls or inside furniture Rehoming then again would just make it absolutely incredibly hard to do anything with them. As for fixing the male it’s not what I want to do but I’ll leave that alone for now and think about that again at a later time. Personally, I'm don't understand why you wouldn't neuter the male unless you just want more and more joeys Will someone help me and coach me in what to do and how to handle this pair? I really need guidance and knowledge. If you read back through this thread, I don't know what more advice we could give you. Truthfully, I think we have given you the best we have based on what we know a bout this pair and our experience.
If you don't neuter the male, if the female is indeed a very protective mother, if you don't want to take the time (and it is going to take lots of time with this pair), then I'm not sure what more we can tell you.
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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05/24/18 12:32 PM
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Tynk, I agree with Karen on neutering Dad and all boys if you plan to keep any. We are here however and can share our own experiences and what did and did not work for us. I'm glad you're going to give it another try. We will try to help get you through this one way or another.
Dawn Be patient, and Trust your journey.... Grace Ruby Mom Dad Fiona, Dot and Stewie wish I could turn back time... Miss you
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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This is a link that might help out at feeding time, without really forcing any interaction. http://newagegliderssuggiew.forumsmotion.com/t62-bonding-interacting-handling-sugar-gliders Also you may want to work with babies after separated from parents and let the parents watch your positive interactions with babies. They do learn from each other they can learn bad behavior or fear from another glider but also can learn to trust as my Pin Head did. He followed Peanut after watching her climb back down my arm and into shirt pocket pouch. One day he just did it to Paulette with no coaxing or encouragement. We were putting his nesting material back in cage and HE decided it was time and climbed up her hand then her arm and then down into the pocket. I call it the ignore me and show me you want to bond.
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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05/24/18 05:53 PM
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Depends on how you intend to house them and how they get along.
Sometimes you can house intact brothers together with no problem, however, sons/fathers could be another issue. Plus you really should keep the bonded pair together, and in your case the only way you can do that without having more joeys is to neuter the dad.
If you keep brother/sister together then, yes, you need to neuter the male/s.
If you keep any related male offspring with the mother then, yes, you should neuter the male not only so there is no inbreeding but also so there is no fighting with the intact father when they come to maturity.
These are just a few of the combinations and reasons for neutering.
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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I plan on Keeping the brothers together in another cage in another room away from mom and dad. Should that be OK
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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It will for awhile. When the boys become mature, they will start over marking their territory and bark to the other gliders. They have an excellent sense of smell. You will also have to wash your hands between handling gliders in separate cages.
Daddy glider brought up some excellent points.
The "monkey see monkey do" tactic really works. Good or bad influences will carry over to the joeys. It doesn't work overnight so to speak, but over time.
Don't get stressed over this. Like all other animals they can sense your fear, anxiety,and stress. They also know when you are calm, and happy.
Last edited by Ladymagyver; 05/25/18 07:30 AM.
Dawn Be patient, and Trust your journey.... Grace Ruby Mom Dad Fiona, Dot and Stewie wish I could turn back time... Miss you
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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That’s really odd that y’all say that I’ve had brothers together in the same cage away from other gliders and they were just fine
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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The best advice for bonding that I can give. we got connor after the owner lost his cagemate and left connor alone in the back room. only feeding him, they had a picture of him on their arm, but I think that was a long time ago in glider time. Connor would crab so bad, and even lounge at us, but it did seem like he was less likely to actually bite, but I did not test or push him to start. After a few weeks of talking to him, and him crabbing back at me, I found he liked yogurt drops and gave him a few. I continued to give him a treat and talk to him. He continued to crab and at first lounge to scare me away. After a month or more, I would wait till he was eating the treat and give him a pet, he wasn't happy but let me pet him some while eating, not biting me...a baby step. I started taking his sleeping pouch out of cage, hoping he wouldn't pop up and bite me, he didn't, just a ton of crabbing. I would look at him in pouch, talk to him, let him crab. the more I did this, the less time he crabbed and would settle down faster. with a treat I could slowly pet the BACK of his head. Finally I moved to bathroom time, let him explore, on second trip I did a gentle scoop up (using two hands on each side, this seems to be a better method, the gliders can try to jump over you hand, so the chance to escape seems to mean they are less likely to bit, small or big bite) and he walked on me. He has only tired to bite me while cutting nails, like almost all our glider do sometimes, He is now with the 4 white gliders and seems to have made a 100% successful introduction, But he still crabs a LOAD at first, but will stop after a few words to him usually, I just let him crab, as long as he's not biting. i did this over about 8 months, just one small success after another, at times pushing him to something new and hoping he didn't bite, and I still have more work, I just moved them to a new glider room and he will get LOTS MORE out of cage time in a big area.
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Re: HELP!!! Adopted older gliders.
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I used bonding spray from Suncoast gliders and it made such a difference in my adopted glider accepting me and my other accepting him. I spray his fleece and rubbed it all over him. It calms them down and they become accepting. Then I tried spraying some in a pouch. The next day they are snuggled up together after 6 weeks of crabbing and sleeping separate.
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